When men come together,
we propel our awakened knowledge state into
guided action.
In professionally facilitated coaching groups, we connect our physical and energetic embodiments into
the men we are called to be.
The Activated Man
a professionally certified group coaching/healing program for men 18+
2027
is a pivotal year
for the world in technology, economics, politics, society, and environment.
It may also be for your own personal world.
Start your year ready to engage the challenges ahead.
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Achieving Wholeness: Through shared group experience, we develop neural alignment creating deepened connection and the knowledge that our backs are covered.
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Narrative Rewiring: We can benefit from collective support while identifying and replacing common limiting beliefs. A professionally led group dynamic facilitates "Quantum Neuro Reprogramming," essentially providing a "software update" for the mind to support new life challenges.
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Translating Healing into Action: The group setting helps us move from "healing past wounds" to "active creation" through professionally certified guided processes, sharing and accountability. It provides a structure to turn abstract insights into concrete daily practices and goal-oriented actions.
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Environmental & Social Anchoring: Group work reinforces internal shifts. By engaging with other men in a "high-vibe creative space," we can better anchor our internal changes into their external reality and social environment.
This is not your typical men’s discussion group or circle.
These are monthly curated groups selected based on common life questions and challenges, and facilitated by Marc Gravallese,
a professionally certified coach/shamanic healer.
Marc will engage the group in proven transformational processes incorporating his unique
DAD system to unravel the clutter, integrate your internal compass, and create your path forward.
DAD (Decode-Align-Design) bridges the gap between ancient wisdom and modern neuroscience, helping us identify and clear hidden energetic blockages.
By rewiring our neural pathways and harmonizing with our physical environment, it facilitates a "quantum leap" from reactive, fear-based living
to the intentional creation of our most authentic reality.
Application
Email marc@theshagrug.com
or text Marc at
571-221-6749
indicating upfront that you are
"requesting an application for the 2027 Men’s Activation Group"
so that your correspondence is not marked as spam.
Marc will then schedule a free 15-minute consult to review your application and discuss any questions you have.
12 Month Group Program
Location & Pricing
Sessions will begin in January 2027
Option 1: 3-hour in-person monthly gatherings
(San Diego Metro & points north)
$600 $480/year membership
(a 20% discount for showing up!)
Option 2: 2-hour virtual monthly video calls
challenges and breakthroughs you can expect
DAD Talks: Launching Young Men into a Disparate World
(typically men 18 to mid-30s)
Stepping into adulthood today feels less like following a map and more like navigating a rapidly shifting landscape. For men 18 to mid-30s, the traditional benchmarks of success are being rewritten in real-time. Group Coaching offers a dedicated space to confront the unique pressures of building a career in an unpredictable job market, managing mounting financial stress, and figuring out what it means to be a man in a rapidly changing world disparate with your inner compass. Group Coaching gives you the opportunity to have those DAD talks your dad may not have had the tools needed for healing, unconditional support, guidance and activation.
Beneath the daily hustle, many young men are quietly dealing with unprecedented levels of anxiety, disrupted sleep, and a profound sense of loneliness. Despite being more digitally connected than ever, creating meaningful relationships and navigating the complexities of dating and sex can feel incredibly isolating when definitions of what’s acceptable are transforming daily. Men’s health and image is so important to this generation yet clouded by social media unrealistic expectations and misinformation. We will break through that to discover what your body is requesting and what you need to pay attention to.
This generation has chosen you to usher in a new world. It is vital to gain the tools to sustain yourself during the transition and harness your unique abilities to create the future your inner frequency is aligned with.
Group Coaching goes beyond surface-level advice to address the root causes of these challenges. Participants will explore practical, healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress, break through isolation, heal wounds, and build the foundational resilience needed to launch into the future with clarity and confidence.
DAD Wisdom: Navigating Millennial Malaise
(typically men in early 30s to mid-40s)
The years between 30 and mid-40s are often a relentless pressure cooker of competing demands. Men in this stage are frequently stretched thin between expanding professional responsibilities and changing dynamics at home. Group Coaching addresses the hidden struggles of this era, from early career despair and work woes to the physical tolls of stress, including hypertension and ED. It also shines a vital light on often-ignored aspects of men's health. Catabolic stress is the number one cause of rapidly declining physical and mental health for this age group.
This phase of life frequently sees a sharp decline in men's social networks. As friendships fade into the background of busy schedules, loneliness grows, and many men default to keeping their heaviest struggles entirely to themselves. This isolation, combined with the heavy burden of being on your own or a provider, can cause depression to manifest outwardly as explosive anger, reckless behavior, binge drinking, or substance abuse. This can create a dangerous path that leads to chronic illness and rising suicide rates in this age group.
For dads, no one really prepares you for what becoming a dad is like. Whether you are a dad already or thinking about it, Group Coaching will help you heal past wounds and navigate the wild change in your micro world amid a rapidly changing macro world around you. For those with female partners, postpartum depression and psychosis in your partner can turn your life upside down as you feel pushed out of what was supposed to be a perfect union. For those adopting or using surrogacy, the stressful process can strain relationships and adopted child syndrome can be overwhelming as you navigate attachment issues, defiance and a sense of loss in your new child leaving you unequipped. Both scenarios can leave you feeling isolated and inadequate. Our group will be your life saver.
And what about raising or mentoring Gen A? Gen A is born into a rapidly changing world. We will explore how we as mentors and dads prepare Gen A for a world we have not experienced. They are an incredibly gifted generation, and it is our duty to guide them to become their best selves. This can feel unattainable without a community of men to support you.
Group Coaching is designed to break the stigma of seeking help and dismantle the "tough it out" mentality. By bringing men together to express their shared realities, the group helps rebuild vital support networks, offering healthier ways to navigate relationship shifts, changing world paradigms, parenthood, and professional stress.
DAD Awakening: Navigating Second Life Changes
(typically men mid-40s+)
For men generally in their mid-40s+, life often brings a heavy period of reckoning. Sometimes this comes earlier in life after a major life change or illness recovery. Group Coaching focuses on the intersection of physical health transitions including heart health, metabolism, diabetes, and prostate or colon care—and the deep psychological shifts that occur in the second half of life. When career stagnation sets in or romantic relationships shift or end in divorce, men are often left asking an exhausting question: "What is it all worth?"
This demographic faces the highest rates of suicide, frequently driven by a crisis of socioeconomic self-worth and a rigid job identity conflicting with an inner want for something more meaningful out of life. When a man ties his entire value to his output or title, facing an uncertain future or feeling like he hasn't "figured it out by now" can make it feel like there is no way out. Compounding this is a severe lack of male social networks and a deeply ingrained stigma against showing vulnerability, leading many to self-medicate with alcohol. Together, we will work to heal life’s wounds and pave the way for a richer second life.
Group Coaching provides an essential space to challenge the expectation to smile and bear it alone. It offers a blueprint for men to cultivate a genuine community, rediscover their purpose outside of their productivity, and transition from a mindset of survival to one of legacy, true self-worth and purpose.
DAD Silence: What He Never Told Me about Sex and Sexuality
(all men 18+)
Sexuality is one of the most profound aspects of human identity and connection, yet it is often a source of intense, unvoiced anxiety for men. From navigating confusing identity labels—gay, bi, fluid, pan, asexual—to wondering if it's okay to just be straight in a changing world today.
Group Coaching creates an open, non-judgmental environment to address the physical and emotional barriers that disrupt intimacy and sexual expression. We will look honestly at the realities of performance anxiety and low libido from burnout. We will normalize the unspoken questions, guilt, and curiosities men carry or simply compare notes with the guys.
Modern culture has set entirely unrealistic expectations for body image, sexual stimulation, pacing, and performance, leaving men constantly asking, "How do I measure up?" This digital distortion often leaves men feeling isolated and disconnected from their bodies, constantly worried that their physical build or stamina is just not up to par. The endless pressure to perform strips away the joy of intimacy, replacing authentic connection or self-expression with a harsh inner critic.
Group Coaching will heal your imbedded wounds and reclaim your sexuality as an integrated, spiritual, and grounding experience rather than a performance to be judged. Together, we will give space to express and explore what occupies your mind and feelings. Participants will learn how to move past the mental noise of inadequacy, heal from burnout, and build a healthier, more authentic connection to themselves and partners—offering a safe space to express yourself.